Erin (lizzypaul) wrote in dobson_survivor,

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Joe Dallas is a creep.

Joe Dallas has several articles about homosexuality on the Focus on the Family website. I've been wanting to destroy review one for quite some time, but I quickly realized that it would take more than one post and a lot of time. In the interest of making my life easier and cutting down on the tl;dr, I'll break up the article into several sections (luckily, the article is already broken down) and discuss one a day.

The article in question is: Responding to Pro-Gay Theology: General Religious Arguments. So I suppose I'll be responding to the response. :) Before I get started, however, I'd like to give a little background information.

Joe Dallas is a prominent "ex-gay". His official bio can be found here, though I wouldn't go surfing around the website, as a strong urge to vomit may occur. Joe isn't just an "ex-gay", no, Joe was once an active member in the pro-gay chruch movement, which supposedly gives him a greater perspective and authority to talk about gay spiritual matters. I say it just gives him a stronger stench of bullshit.

Dr. Rembert Truluck has a great review of his book, "A Strong Delusion: Confronting the Gay Christian Movement" here. To quote, "Joe has a knack for reading his own prejudices and sexual hang-ups into everything that he has heard from people in MCC and from anyone who questions his "ex-gay" distortions of science and the Bible." From the articles of Mr. Dallas's that I've read, I'd have to agree.

Dr. Truluck adds, "He completely ignores all evidence that disputes his main claims about the Bible and homosexuality." This is utterly accurate. In reading "Responding to Pro-gay Theology", I was struck by how easy it was to poke holes in his arguments. Joe Dallas assumes two things when writing: a) Everyone reading thinks like he does, and b) His theology is right without question.

There is far better critique and examination of the ex-gay movement than I can provide, particularly here, here, and here. I will say this (and feel free to disagree): while I don't believe in true conversation from homosexuality to heterosexuality (or vise versa), would never venture to tell anyone what their sexual orientation is. If someone says that they're gay/lesbian/bisexual/transgenderd/asexual/straight, that's their right to claim that identity. I've had people tell me that I'm "not really a lesbian" because "you've never had sex with a woman" or "you're too young." That's bullshit, frankly. So I'm not going to look at a supposed ex-gay and say, well, "You can't be straight because you used to have sex with guys," etc. The problem comes in when you believe your orientation is better, that everyone should be like you. This is what I hate (and what, I think, most people hate) about the ex-gays. Live however you want. Be straight. Whatever. But give us the same respect, and let us live our lives.

In my book, there are three types of ex-gays:

a) The Celibate: Out of the three, this takes the most dedication. This "ex-gay" has made the greatest sacrifice: although he or she is entirely oriented towards same-gendered partners, they've decided to live celibate or heterosexual lives. They've given up on a relationship that would be most satisfying, and have settled for a relationship without sexual, romantic, or spiritual satisfaction (or no relationship at all).

b) The Bisexual: Contrary to popular belief, on both the gay and ex-gay sides, having a monogamous relationship (or an abundance of partners with the same gender) does not suddenly make you straight or gay. Bisexuals are not any more slutty or incapable of monogamy than any other orientation. It's possible to have a monogamous heterosexual relationship and still be attracted to members of the same gender.

c) The Confused: Yes, it is possible to be confused about your sexual orientation, especially in youth. Yes, it's possible to be "rescued" (hear the sarcasm, there) from a homosexual orientation if you're just curious/interested/confused as a kid. Speaking as someone who went from thinking of herself as straight, then lesbian, then bisexual, and back to a hardcore dyke, adolescence can be confusing and strange.

The ex-gay movement is harmful because it trades in shame and self-hatred. I think that many people involved are simply good people, but ignorant people. They want to live a pure, Christian life, and they've bought into the lie that homosexuality is incompatible with that. Then, of course, there are those like Joe Dallas, who use the ex-gay movement for selfish political and financial gain, much like women involved with conservative think-tank groups fight against their own best interests to gain power and notoriety.

Well! I'll get to the actual article tomorrow. :)

EDIT: Fixed the HTML tags of doom.
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