Sorry for falling behind on the Dare to Discipline series! I'll try to get back on track as soon as possible.
And so I won't make this a completely useless post, I'd like to share with you this article from Boundless, a Focus on the Family website. The article is "For Guys Only" so...oops?
1. Spiritual maturity sufficient to lead a wife and children.
The Bible is clear about a man's responsibility to exercise spiritual maturity and spiritual leadership. Of course, this spiritual maturity takes time to develop, and it is a gift of the Holy Spirit working within the life of the believer. The disciplines of the Christian life, including prayer and serious Bible study, are among the means God uses to mold a boy into a man and to bring spiritual maturity into the life of one who is charged to lead a wife and family. This spiritual leadership is central to the Christian vision of marriage and family life. A man's spiritual leadership is not a matter of dictatorial power, but of firm and credible spiritual leadership and influence. A man must be ready to lead his wife and his children in a way that will honor God, demonstrate godliness, inculcate Christian character and lead his family to desire Christ and to seek God's glory. Spiritual maturity is a mark of true Christian manhood, and a spiritually immature man is, in at least this crucial sense, spiritually just a boy.
2. Personal maturity sufficient to be a responsible husband and father.
True masculinity is not a matter of exhibiting supposedly masculine characteristics devoid of the context of responsibility. In the Bible, a man is called to fulfill his role as husband and father. Unless granted the gift of celibacy for gospel service, the Christian boy is to aim for marriage and fatherhood. This is assuredly a counter-cultural assertion, but the role of husband and father is central to manhood. Marriage is unparalleled in its effect on men, as it channels their energies and directs their responsibilities to the devoted covenant of marriage and the grace-filled civilization of the family. They must aspire to be the kind of man a Christian woman would gladly marry and children will trust, respect, and obey.
I know I shouldn't let this stuff disturb me any more but...yuck. This is what we're teaching our young boys? That he must "lead his wife and children"? And is anyone else disturbed to see the wife and children linked together like that? I certainly hope the boys reading this will grow up out of this childish, antiquated domineering attitude before they get married. And I hope that the girls growing up with this attitude will learn that they deserve more than "being led" and are capable to make their own decisions.
Because honestly, how could you respect your wife if she's to be led like a child?